Frank, thank you for sharing that story.
Maybe Kristians parents thought a bit like I tend to. A persons memory is not kept alive by visiting graves. Of course I do respect that other people find consoleance in doing so, but I prefer to keep the memory alive by being inspired by peoples lives and not let that inspiration dissipate.
By wat you shared here, it seems to work that way for you. Black Dove? I own a few books by the Black Dog company

Different thing maybe, but Wizards indeed.
Today it's Tool Time!

Taken with the D3, 55mm f1,2 @ f2 and PK-12