Ron,
I have posted nothing so far, thinking that words are only words, they cannot change anything for you, and they may seem a bit vacuous in the face of the enormous upheaval that you and your wife are experiencing.
And yet, knowing that others, who are not able to do anything for us, still feel for us and wish us to get through the ordeal as quickly and painlessly as possible, is a heart warming feeling.
I think it would be if I were in your place.
I hope that the forced change in your life will have its positive aspects, you certainly seem to have a positive attitude in the face of adversity.
All the best
Simone