Akira's option seems to me the best way, I am planning to anodise my pano head but cost is a factor which is getting in the way right now.
I will look at anodising kits first but rather lack confidence to get involved in chemistry. Don't want to ruin the appearance of my work by spoiling it with a shoddy anodising job.
You can get aerosol etching primer, Rustoleum themselves do an aluminium primer but it's brush on, sort of rubbery? It balls up if you don't leave it with a single stroke of the brush, almost like rubber glue or Evostick, can make a right mess, being rubbery it doesn't rub down either. £5 for a tiny tin, the last one I had got knocked over by accident...
I have a Humbrol agent in town, will have a chat with them. I can always strip the paint and get it anodised in the future when funds improve. For now I just want it black so I can use it.
I have looked at flocking the inside of the shade and the inside of the cap, apparently a very simple process but not sure it's a good way forward durability being one concern. I think the inside of my 16mm fisheye lens cap is coated with flocking, it grips nicely but before making it I would need to know exactly how effectively thick the coating would be, applied manually it may vary. The cap might not go on if it's too tight or might be loose/fall off if too slack, the difference will probably be small between one and the other.
I have looked at the 16mm fisheye cap, it consists of three parts, a tube, a threaded retaining ring and a thin disk, 1.4mm, with the "Nikon" lettering which is retained in the tube by the threaded ring.
I don't really want the complications of making mine in three pieces, screw cutting such fine threads in such delicate pats seems a wast of effort for little gain, however, I will find it very hard to make the disk part as thin as the Nikon one because it may not machine easily, it will tend to bend away from the lathe tool, even with very light cuts, so I am limited how thin I can go by making it in one piece.