About the low contrast, it is not generally something I positively want to have, rather the consequence of me trying to get all the detail from the deepest shadows to the highlights. I still have to learn a way to do it in a credible way that does not look flat.
Somewhere something has got to give, I just have to find what and how.
In this search for a balance you, Lars and Elsa are right that whatever the look, if that is my choice so be it. I am still learning - the more photos I take the more it seems there is to learn - and looking at other people's pictures and talking with them is useful.
For me the book "Photoshop Professional" by Dan Margulis was an eye opener years ago. Correct colors, great highlights and shadows, eye pleasing contrast.
Do not be fooled by the title. You learn seeing channels and using layers, things that are common to any advanced editing program, not Photoshop especially.
You can start out with creating a TIFF in Photo Ninja, which I use to treat my Fuji Xtrans2 files from the X100T (same sensor as the XT-1), and later do the fine tunig in any other program.
After these technical notes I want to refer to the artistic decisions:
In film days my "look" was the Fuji Sensia 100 look. This look was what I felt was more or less the way I saw the world. I looked at the projection of my slide or a qualified print and said: " Yes, that is the way I remember it, that is the way I felt it".
With digital came the more "negative like qualities" even in the JPEGs, because all pictures can be treated to look very differently when I edit them.
And: It was not always easy to set the camera to a JPEG setting that looked like "Fuji Sensia" or "The way I felt the scene".
On the D3 with 1.4/50G I felt "D2X Mode III with sharpening set to value 5" was a very good resemblence of my beloved Fuji Sensia look, but every camera has a different response curve and "Fuji Film simulation" on a Fuji Digital camera does not necessarily look like Fuji Film.
So
If you remember a low contrast scene and want to show it that way: Just do it. If you very sensitively pump the pic a very little bit like our friendly lady from South Africa did, also good.
Make your artistic decision and acquire the editing skills you need to create your vision on screen and paper!
Love
Frank