It is slightly ironic that amongst photographers there is no (or very little) consensus on matters of physical optics that have not been up for debate for two centuries.
I think this is more a case of human psychology than of the technicalities of the debate. Photographers have certain questions regarding the behaviour of their gear. They pick the argument that answers their questions in the simplest and fastest way, not the argument that is soundest in terms of stating every implicit assumption explicitly. Neither they pick the argument that emerges from historical photographic practice. Hopefully they verify for themselves that the predictions of the 'theory' they picked is actually correct (which is not all too easy with all the confirmation bias coming in). If that is the case, all is well. If not, they are probably on a fool's errand or it doesn't actually matter all that much.
As for the format comparisons and such: format comparisons do serve a different purpose than they did with view cameras 50 or more years ago (I surmise, because I was not there). Now many people compare formats expecting to use them for the near-same purpose exclusively because sensors are not modular (unlike film backs) and you are stuck with what you have in your camera body. Say, you compare putting your money in a FX vs. a m4/3 system and only one of them. Of course they are very different, but if you have to choose, what do you do? All sorts of questions pop up regarding the relative benefits and drawbacks. Among these are optical limitations of the lenses and how they translate into visible differences in the final pictures (that are viewed without knowing the gear that was used to create them, hence expectations and output sizes are often gear-invariant whereas the obtainable results are not). In these cases, excessive relativism and harping on obvious things like "each format has its purpose and use" or "if you know your thing, you can make any camera sing" does not answer these concerns, you still have to balance everything and come up with one answer.